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Clarify Your Targets And Set Up Support

Someone once told me that the rocket from Cape Canaveral to the Moon is only ever on track for 3 per cent of the time. It’s off track 97 per cent of the time. The secret to it getting there is that it’s put back on track only when it’s marginally off track.

Anyone who’s strayed from their well-intended New Year resolutions can take comfort in the fact that regular correction can bring the goal back into focus.

Many people set goals, but then don’t monitor their progress or be accountable to anyone about how they’re going. When they get off track, they may think it’s all too hard or they may tell themselves they’re hopeless; either way they stop. What the rocket story tells us is that we can slip up from time to time. When we check in on our progress regularly, we remind ourselves why we have set our goals and then move forward again.

This is why support is so important. To really be dedicated to a goal we need to define the goal clearly and understand how it makes a difference to achieving those values that are most important to us.

A goal to “get healthy” is too broad and vague. Narrow it down, what exactly does “get healthy” look like/mean to you? Does it mean walk for 20 minutes three days a week or train for a marathon? Does it mean increase the amount of green veges you eat or reduce your alcohol consumption: if so, by how much and how often? This is what I mean when I say, “Get specific”.

Ask yourself, what really drives me to want this goal and what difference is it really going to make to me when I achieve/get it? This process of clarifying your reasons for doing something gives you sufficient fuel in your motor to drive you to your destination.

A point of distinction is to have a strategy in place for the hurdles that inevitably appear to block or stop you.

We all know circumstances pop up that make it hard for us to keep our resolutions. When someone passes around double chocolate muffins at work just as the mid-morning munchies kick in your resolution to avoid sugar may melt.

However, when you have planned for things that might challenge your resolve, they are no longer unexpected. When you have healthy snacks in your desk drawer, or a prepared explanation for why you’re not eating sugar you find it easier to decline. And you’re able to keep on track.

These are the main differences between people who set New Year resolutions and nail them, and those who don’t.

Have someone to check in with about your goals so you can make success easy. I fill this role with many of my clients, in fact one once called me “an unreasonable friend”.

There’s nothing quite like being accountable to someone you have to look in the eye and say “Yeah, I’ve done that”.

Over the next five weeks I’ll come back to points made in this column to help you keep on track.

You can also see the article (as it ran in the Marlborough Express) here: http://www.stuff.co.nz/marlborough-express/opinion/8138535/Clarify-your-targets-and-set-up-support

Embracing The ‘Now’

“Don’t take life too seriously. You’ll never escape it alive anyway!” – Elbert Hubbard

Can you remember the highlights of this year for you? What happened in January 2012 that gave you a sense of fulfilment, took your breath away or made you laugh till your belly ached?

How about grabbing a pen and writing down something memorable (or not so memorable!) for each month of this year? Notice what it looks like and whether it is something you feel proud of – or wish that you had done differently.

Think about what you may like to change for the coming year, and why. Perhaps you set some goals and achieved all that you set out to do; maybe you set some, but like 61 per cent of the under-20s or 86 per cent of the over-50s – they fell by the wayside – maybe you didn’t set any at all and you found yourself thinking like Mitch Hedburg who said: I’m tired of following my dreams. I’m just going to ask them where they’re headed and catch up with them later!

New Year’s Resolutions or not?! That is the question.

There’s an expectation among many that the “New Year” is the only time to reset our GPS and focus on where we want to be going. Isn’t this a load of rubbish?

Shouldn’t we be plotting our course on an ongoing basis – checking in regularly whether we’re on track for what we want to achieve or not? From my little knowledge of sailing, it would be unwise to plot your course and then sit back and ignore it because so many things can change: the winds may change in direction and force, which has an impact on your boat and the course it’s heading and the way the seas present.

If planning your life isn’t your thing, maybe the simple answer is to commit to one thing this coming year, and that is to enjoy “this moment” NOW!

As we become conscious of what we are doing and how we choose to tackle each task every day, it is our attitude that makes the difference.

By appreciating what we have and realising what we don’t want for ourselves, we can enrich our choices and our direction and focus more on the life we want.

As the old cliche goes, at the end of our days, “no one is going to wish we spent more time in the office or doing the housework!”.

So check this out: If you were to die tomorrow, could you honestly say “I’ve lived a great life and have no regrets”?

That’s not to say there aren’t more things you’d like to do, but have you done enough?

Have a great New Year’s and remember: Be accountable!

Find yourself an “unreasonable friend” who won’t be sympathetic to your excuses. Instead, they will turn them into opportunities for you to get where you want to be.

What seems like the right thing to do could also be the hardest thing you have ever done in your life.

You can also see the article (as it ran in the Marlborough Express) here: http://www.stuff.co.nz/marlborough-express/opinion/8125068/Embracing-the-now